Father’s Day. This is one of those holidays that holds much joy and sorrow. Joy over getting to honor the dads in our lives. And sorrow for all that is lost. One of our dear friends just buried her dad. It’s going to be a rough day. For a surprising number of us, it’s a tender day with precious memories long gone. For other’s it’s an awkward day spent wondering if anyone will celebrate them as a dad. Imperfection has a way of causing the men in our lives to cringe away from the desire to celebrate.
For some the loss has nothing to do with the death of a father. It’s the death of the dream of Wally and Beaver’s dad or some other television characterized version of the best dads. What do we do with today and it’s large commercial version vs the reality of unmet expectations in life?
Oh beloved, you may have had the worst dad ever. Let’s be truthful. Some of you had alcoholic dads, abusive fathers, elusive emotionally distant men. You wanted so much more. You still do. And this holiday may wreck you as you remember what you didn’t have.
But listen, beloved, God wants you to know that He is the Father to the fatherless, hopeless, angry, unfulfilled people today. He is the one who will meet all your needs. Dads really can’t – not even the best of them. But you beloved, as a child of the Most High God, can rejoice in what you do have instead of raging against what you don’t have. The rage you may be feeling for the long unmet needs or wants cannot compare to the love of God and how He longs to pour His love into your heart and mind. Today is a good day to forgive and forget. Forgive the misdeeds of the man who may be long gone by now. And forget about what isn’t. It’s time for you to live for what is. You can honor your father no matter what – being kind, speaking life, praying God’s word over him and seeking God’s face on your earthly father’s behalf. Imperfect dads are raised by imperfect dads who were raised by imperfect fathers. But as you forgive and break free from the spiritual strongholds of the memories you can’t cherish, you change the atmosphere for your generation and the future generations who come after you. You can give all your anxiety to your heavenly Father, knowing that He cares for you. You can pour out your disappointments to the King of Kings who always leads you in triumph in Christ. And when fitted with the armor of God instead of the past mistakes of fathers in your life, you won’t continue to be shot by the fiery darts of the enemy who only wants you to remember the worst and the most hurtful things in your life, especially today.
God loves you and He’s for you. Celebrate who you are in Christ, honor your living father, pray without ceasing for the one you call dad. Roll your cares and hurts and deepest painful memories onto the God who can handle it all and heal every single spot. And then live free in the Light of the Love of the Savior and the manifestation of Holy Spirit residing in your heart.
Ephesians 6:2-3 “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Psalm 103:13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, So the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.
I Corinthians 13:1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
Philippians 4:19 And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from His glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.
Matthew 5:7 Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.